Love Story No 1 (My First Love):-
I am an average looking guy like
a guy next door simple, average height, and a common middle Class person ... My
first love story with Shikha Kapoor starts from the year 2005. In actual before
coming to college, we were in high school together in same class... We had
Infatuation for each other always but never told to each other... Even after to
college in 2005, and luckily again in the same class, we used to often spend
time each other, and interacting late after the college classes and then SMSs
and Calls late into the nights..... (Mushy Mushy Feeling as Memories go by the
lane....;-))
It was smooth going in the first
year , by the end of second year i.e. by December 2006 , I had officially proposed her after knowing
almost 4 years from the High School Days.... (My Best Day Ever in college and
till date....Some Things can never be forgotten )
The days after she accepted the
proposal were very romantic.... U can understand how college days are,...
Hanging out, then First Love, Hanging out, Thinking of that Person always,,
doing all the stupid things u can do for your Love...
The first few days were very well
going… We were in Final Year by that time…. Things started to change after
that… She and I had never informed our parents about our Relationship and we
used to meet where no one could see us i.e. in parks and Gardens….
That was the downfall of My first
Relationship with Shikha Kapoor…. In 2006… Her parents got to know from
somebody and problems started brewing in her family….
Since Indian Mentality of the
parents is such that, you cant marry the person of your choice.. You have to
marry the person where your parents want it…..
Among all the emotional drama,
which took place on January 2007, our Break-up Happened (My first Experience
with Lonelyness)…. Subsequent not only days but also months were very
difficult… In April , our final semester exams came and it was tough
concentrating for the exams…
She and I had become Known
Strangers for each other… That spart , that Innocence had gone ever since
then….. A very Painful Expirience…. I dint knew what to do… Nothing seemed to
be going in my favour…. And I had even planned for Suicide… Life was hell
during those days…..
I got strength from my God to
face the struggling face…. It was tough for her too and I Could see the pain in
her eyes too….She was doing her Chartered Accountance Intermediate Course by
that time….
Days and Months Passed as they
say Time is the biggest Healer… U move on with Time… so did I and her…
After Graduating , we lost touch
with each other and like this 8-10 months passed where one fine day, through
one of the common friend got to know that she cleared her Intermediate Level of
her CA….. (Happy News but only Temporary)
As she got the happy news, the
sad news followed…. She was detected
with some Skin Disease and the day she was admitted to a local Multi Speciality
hospital, Doctors gave up and she saw the last of this world in 2009….She went
away leaving with the memories which we had , leaving the closeness we had,
leaving behind the Lost Love…..
And as they say in Hindi, PEHLA
NASHA…. My Pehla Nasha with her , My First Love , ended in 2009….. Shikha
Kapoor, U still live in my dreams and U are one of the Stars which I always see
twinkling in the SkY….
And as they say…. She gave me a
beautiful feeling called Love…. Which I was left with…. Cherished Memories…
Love Story No 2 (Rashmi Prabha) :-
And as days passed, I became more
matured and completed my Post Graduation in 2010 and started working in a
Nationalized Bank in 2011…. My dream job I had got… and I was pretty happy in
my job…. Doing my job as it was a probation period going on
And in the bank it is termed as
the Honeymoon Period……
It was during this second year of
Probation that I met this girl Rashmi
Prabha from Bhopal
and had an immediate connection… I think Love again struck me then in 2012….
But as they say the feelings in the first love are always special…. That
Innocence, That Sparkness , That Shyness…. Goes with you as the first love
goes….
And as they say with experience
you become a professional….. I think the same was happening with me… but
nonetheless ignoring all the above thoughts,
I gave myself another chance of
falling in Love and so started spending time with her, on the training days,,
daily wishing her good morning’s and the late night talks… I still remember, we
had a 4 hour talk on “LOVE” when we were
in Delhi….
We used to go on dates and always used to spend time together, I
think CUPID had again struck me with this girl and again doing the romantic
things … I am a die hard Romantic Guy with all its stupidities…In love, heart
does think the Logical Things … I only thinks of the Love and how to be her
most valued possession…..
I am a very possessive guy… and
used to become jealous when she used to talk to other guys… Then training got
over, we used to spend Long Hours on phone… studied together for the confirmation
Exam…. And what not endless talks… We used to Fight…. We used to do all the
Love talks… from Friends we had gone to become Intimate Friends on Phone Though in less than 8 months…
As time passed, in August 2012 I
proposed her which she accepted….. Again the second best day of my Life… (First
one being with my First Love)…. Things were this time known since I had already
experienced them before…. But still that joy though less this time, was very
much there…. And those love songs and that Mushy Mushy feelings…..
Then came December 2012 when
actually I forwarded a plan of our marriage…. But here like in India, the
caste system is still prevalent… Her Parents rejected our relationships… even
after convincing them, they never accepted and since then I never spoke to my
parents about the same…..
Still 3 months passed, and even
after struggling… things were never working out ….. We started having fights….
And she used to cry daily…. The Good Times started turning into Bad Days and
those sleepless nights…..
After constantly following up
also with her, things dint worked out and on 22nd March,2013 we
broke up (2 Days after my Birthday, Birthday on 20th March)… Time
passed… but her love never stopped for me and we are still in touch even after
a year of not talking to each other….. She still loves me as she has not moved
on since then… Though confessing here honestly, my feelings for her got over
since I entered into 3rd Relationship with Shefali Bagga- The most
Painful Experience till date…. But as I said earlier… Love can never be
blamed…. Love is pure in its sense… it is only us Humans who actually Defame
it…….
Love Story No 3 ( Shefali Bagga- The most Painful Story for Me till
Now………)
My Third love story had started
while I was still in my second love story in January 2013 where my would be
father in law Mr Bagga (Girl’s Dad) approached me with the marriage proposal
and I first saw her on January 14,2013… Can never forget that date… and the
first look…She was looking really pretty wearing Dark Blue Jeans and Pink Top……
Looks can always influence a
man’s eyes…. So did happened with me… I don’t know but I was attracted to her
in first go…. (May be not Love but by attraction or looks)
Our talks started on the day of
my birthday 20th March 2013, (May be I broke up with Rashmi Prabha,
the girl who loved me on 22nd March, because Shefali came in my
life- More attracted to her physique and looks than the love- My Biggest
Mistake)
We were on the rolls, daily
interacting on Phones and Facebook, Whats App (The biggest culprit and the
reason for my break up)…. Since then… In May 2013, my ROKA ( A ceremony where
both the families confirm having boy and girl
married to each other) happened… but looking at the Body Language of the
girl,… she was not comfortable as it happened all of a sudden on 05.05.2013 by
her father without telling me and my family and her also….
She was surprised that what was
happening and so did I… Then Ignoring it.. we started spending time together..
for some days I had been to my native place i.e. Chandigarh
as I was staying in Bangalore and she in Chandigarh…… we spend time
to know each other better…..
We were chatting on phones on
wats app sending pics to each other and in this technological era what
not…. Apps we used…..
Initially, she was also very
excited and used to talk to me with an open mind…. In june 2013, her training
came in Delhi
(She is working with a Government Bank) …. Where she went and enjoyed a lot…
and send her pics… She looks very preety in Pink Colour…. (My Bad Luck, I dint
met her much Times during my relationship with her)
As Days passed…. After she came
back from the training… October came… We i.e. my family started asking the
family about the engagement…. She was never ready to do it…. Here comes the role of My lifetime
friend Rachita Sambhyal… a very jovial, understanding, Independent, Gorgeous
Lady who was always there to help me…. Well I introduced her to my Shefali
Bagga , We all did interactions with each other…
Shefali was never interested in
doing engagement… it was only under family pressure.. that she got ready to get
engaged on 12th October, 2013 (I don’t know who read the Bad Omens
for us, that my engagement stands Broken Today ).. Anyways, I ignored this fact
and was happy… on the Evening of that day she told me for the first time That
She Loves me too (The Three words my ears yearned to hear from her since 6
months we had started speaking with each other) and with that she added the
clause that marriage will happen after April 2014 as she is not yet prepared
now… The first big blow to my this relationship in this… still I ignored… I
could not understand why is she not doing the marriage early..
Then as days passed by she became
online till late nites daily till 1 or 2 AM daily and chatting with her
friends… and never informed me with whom she is chatting so long…. She never
understood, that once she is engaged… she should not talk to her friends till
late nites and ignoring me …
We started having fights and
infact constant fights….still January, February, March 2014 passed… During this
time, a career leap happened with me and I cleared Treasury Exam and got posted
in Mumbai….
In March, we had a very big fight
and for the full month of April 2014, we never interacted… It was only after
the girl’s father’s intervention that we started interacting and things became
to normalize as I had thought but she never actually gave importance to me…
I used to cry.. where my lifetime
friend RS helped and councelled me at every step… Due to my immaturity, I also
committed many mistakes in my this relationship…. But I feel the Long Distance
between us and only on phones was the biggest problem between us…….
Love never grows between two
people if they do not spend time physically with each other…. Technology can
bring you closer, but emotionally and physically, You need to be together……
In may, 1 yr of my ROKA and she
dint even remembered the dates… things were not in their place and we had more
of fights and love was no where…. Total complete thinking change and no one
understood each other… There was only Long Silence and just Silence.. and
noices of Crying….. My and her family
were in doldrums only and blamegame started and the game of accusing each
other.....
Like this days passed and my
promotional interview came in July 2014… and still no support from her and her
family side…. I knew something is not going correct, and this girl is doing
marriage under parental pressure rather than her own free will…..
This was the beginning of the end
of my third relationship and it finally got over on 24th July,
2014……..
And I stand before you, yet again
lonely and stranded like ever before…and what is left with me is PAIN…!! PAIN..
AND JUST PAIN….!!!
But my best buddies i.e. RS was given to me during this entire third
relationship experience who was their since my starting and till now she is
with me… emotionally and friendship had grown strong with her… knowing her for
6 Long years…. (Well she is married already, My chance missed….;-))…. But the
love of friendship is always there…..
This pain and loneliness had made
my more subtle, more deeper from insight and more matured…. Though I will still
not say that I know how to handle relationships since it’s a very sensitive
thing and a lot needs to be still learnt now… but these experiences have made
me to value small things In life and value the other person….
Pain and Loneleness , my best
companions and very faithfull but as it is said…God is Great… May be one day I
will find my True Love…. And Love will blossom again… Keep Looking… Never give
up.. You never know… with whom your destiny is finally Tied up….. World is a
Global Village….!!!
With warm Regards,
Ravi
Arora
