The Story Continues..... An end of 4th Relationship or the beginning of new eternal love story....!!!

 The Story Continues.........

The story continues from where I  last left in August 2014... Some experience is always required and a gap of 8 months was there since my last blog I wrote to myself..... The 3rd relation ended on 24.07.2014.

The story continues from there ... and as the time passed I had come to Bombay all set with a new life new profile new people and Mumbai ofcourse the dream city of everyone where dreams get fulfilled....

How can  I not say about the city where i had dreamt of working when i had joined SBI.  I was living my dream and i am still am... Mumbai is such a place which makes u more independet and self dependent that it brings in you a whole new facet  which was unexplored somewhere hidden somewhere lost...

Where careers are made,,, where dreams come to reality and ofcourse some dreams get crashed too.... I was in full swing with new hopes new passion new life and loved the city always.....

My professional life was in a high.... got treasury got promoted all within a span of 3 months....but at the same time the personal life was going from Bad to worse... I had broken with 3rd person in my life.... was such a LOOSER all my life.....

I dont know why i cant be consistent and mature in relationships.. each relationship has taught me some things some mistakes which i had committed but somwhere deep with the heart and soul that innocence of FIRST LOVE was lost.... Reexperiencing the same feelings and same situations again and again has made me some sort of insensitive and a witness to things that one experiences in a heart break.... That innocence is lost within me...... I confess.....

Here this new relation was brewing and a girl by the name Meenal Thakur entered my life in August 2014 ... My dad was seeing a girl for me for a marriage and we got in touch through a newspaper advertisement as typical Arrange marriage happens... In 21st century also  most parents still believe in arrange marriage and marry off the person with complete strangers...

Well this girl was stranger to me till the time we got in touch.. We first spoke in August 2014 when Mumbai was bustling with Rains... I never knew my new love story will start from here..... and not anticipated that it will start so soon... I think life had planned some things for me i guess.... at that point of time....

We started talking on phone to understand each other more better to know each other more better to know both the families more better.... but as they say everything comes with a twist... How can Ravi Arora's life be simple..... I spoke abt my earlier break up with shefali to this girl and thats the first  mistake done....

The whole family was after my family enquiring things from the staff members from the friends and what not abt if I was married or not...Well i guess... one shud be either quiet on such sensitive things or face the wrath from everyone and u just sit helpless.

A typical banker girl into intensive banking...... A beautiful Himachali with a sharp Nose....;-)
her features are quite sharp and quite responsible and a caring Girl.... The family is sweet with a overs smart mother and a dull father.... The protagonist here is the girl's mother under whose guidance everything went....

The second wrath happened when they came down to Mumbai to see my office and home.... Well i thought they wanted to see the place where she will be staying and they were there also in an enquiry mode.... A typical Indian family mother with an over careful daughter.....

Well i beleive relationships is all about trusting each other... Never knew this that relationships go by money and not by trusts... Well i never complained and let them do that also.....

The third wrath happened when even after visiting Mumbai they made enquiries at my Bangalore Branch abt the same... that was heights and i had decided to not marry this girl......

My father here helped me in getting over this and made the situation normal as he somehow liked the girl as she will be responsible and matured unlike earlier..... Off lately everything went quite well.... nd Roka was decided to take place on  17.02.2015.

And as the day arrived,,, another misunderstanding brewed up... and on a word Simple Marriage and the girl's family started to ask for clarifications abt what we meant.... again the relationship was abt to get ended but somehow it got saved... Dont know either some spiritual powers helped or what the relationshp was saved yet again and ROKA happened

Now april 2015,as the marriage preparations have started to happen.. I will ask some questions to you and tell me were they correct... Even i am loooking for the answers to them as i write this...:-

Q.1 Being an inter-caste marriage, we accepted to do in Hindu style coz love is all above thing. what you feel ?
Q.2 There will be No non-veg in marriage.. There is generally a non veg everywhere in marriages . Is it correct ?
Q.3 The girl asks me book the tickets of her family and her relatives everytime they come down to mumbai post marriage.. Is it correct. I said No to her ?
Q.4 The girl asks me that I have to come down to chd. She will not come to Mumbai and have to come to pick her up as she cannot travel alone... I said No...??
Q.5 The girl says that her parents are coming to Mumbai to set up the arrangements.. I ask what sort of arrangements when everything is available here ???
Q.6 The girl will never take a transfer to Mumbai and I have to take the transfer to chd.. Is it correct ??
Q.7 I know she is caring... but wills she care about my parents in future.... ???

May be i do not have the answers to some of the questions above or if i know i may be wrong or right... Time will only tell the answers to these questions.....

Because of the above issues,, we had a fight and we have stopped speaking... Will this relation stop here or it will yet again overpass the problems like it has done in the past... Time has the answer to it ... and only it will tell....

Lets see is it the beginning of the end of my 4th relationship.. for a LOOSER... or God has some other plans in his mind.....????

One more questions... I  know Guruji is listening to me and he will definitely decide the best for me.....!!!

With Warm Regards,



Ravi Arora

Love Story No 1 (My First Love):-

I am an average looking guy like a guy next door simple, average height, and a common middle Class person ... My first love story with Shikha Kapoor starts from the year 2005. In actual before coming to college, we were in high school together in same class... We had Infatuation for each other always but never told to each other... Even after to college in 2005, and luckily again in the same class, we used to often spend time each other, and interacting late after the college classes and then SMSs and Calls late into the nights..... (Mushy Mushy Feeling as Memories go by the lane....;-))

It was smooth going in the first year , by the end of second year i.e. by December 2006 ,  I had officially proposed her after knowing almost 4 years from the High School Days.... (My Best Day Ever in college and till date....Some Things can never be forgotten )

The days after she accepted the proposal were very romantic.... U can understand how college days are,... Hanging out, then First Love, Hanging out, Thinking of that Person always,, doing all the stupid things u can do for your Love...

The first few days were very well going… We were in Final Year by that time…. Things started to change after that… She and I had never informed our parents about our Relationship and we used to meet where no one could see us i.e. in parks and Gardens….

That was the downfall of My first Relationship with Shikha Kapoor…. In 2006… Her parents got to know from somebody and problems started brewing in her family….

Since Indian Mentality of the parents is such that, you cant marry the person of your choice.. You have to marry the person where your parents want it…..

Among all the emotional drama, which took place on January 2007, our Break-up Happened (My first Experience with Lonelyness)…. Subsequent not only days but also months were very difficult… In April , our final semester exams came and it was tough concentrating for the exams…

She and I had become Known Strangers for each other… That spart , that Innocence had gone ever since then….. A very Painful Expirience…. I dint knew what to do… Nothing seemed to be going in my favour…. And I had even planned for Suicide… Life was hell during those days…..

I got strength from my God to face the struggling face…. It was tough for her too and I Could see the pain in her eyes too….She was doing her Chartered Accountance Intermediate Course by that time….

Days and Months Passed as they say Time is the biggest Healer… U move on with Time… so did I and her…

After Graduating , we lost touch with each other and like this 8-10 months passed where one fine day, through one of the common friend got to know that she cleared her Intermediate Level of her CA….. (Happy News but only Temporary)

As she got the happy news, the sad news followed….  She was detected with some Skin Disease and the day she was admitted to a local Multi Speciality hospital, Doctors gave up and she saw the last of this world in 2009….She went away leaving with the memories which we had , leaving the closeness we had, leaving behind the Lost Love…..

And as they say in Hindi, PEHLA NASHA…. My Pehla Nasha with her , My First Love , ended in 2009….. Shikha Kapoor, U still live in my dreams and U are one of the Stars which I always see twinkling in the SkY….

And as they say…. She gave me a beautiful feeling called Love…. Which I was left with…. Cherished Memories…

Love Story No 2 (Rashmi Prabha) :-

And as days passed, I became more matured and completed my Post Graduation in 2010 and started working in a Nationalized Bank in 2011…. My dream job I had got… and I was pretty happy in my job…. Doing my job as it was a probation period going on

And in the bank it is termed as the Honeymoon Period……

It was during this second year of Probation that  I met this girl Rashmi Prabha from Bhopal and had an immediate connection… I think Love again struck me then in 2012…. But as they say the feelings in the first love are always special…. That Innocence, That Sparkness , That Shyness…. Goes with you as the first love goes….

And as they say with experience you become a professional….. I think the same was happening with me… but nonetheless ignoring all the above thoughts,

I gave myself another chance of falling in Love and so started spending time with her, on the training days,, daily wishing her good morning’s and the late night talks… I still remember, we had a 4 hour talk on “LOVE”  when we were in Delhi….

We used to go on dates  and always used to spend time together, I think CUPID had again struck me with this girl and again doing the romantic things … I am a die hard Romantic Guy with all its stupidities…In love, heart does think the Logical Things … I only thinks of the Love and how to be her most valued possession…..

I am a very possessive guy… and used to become jealous when she used to talk to other guys… Then training got over, we used to spend Long Hours on phone… studied together for the confirmation Exam…. And what not endless talks… We used to Fight…. We used to do all the Love talks… from Friends we had gone to become Intimate Friends on Phone  Though in less than 8 months…

As time passed, in August 2012 I proposed her which she accepted….. Again the second best day of my Life… (First one being with my First Love)…. Things were this time known since I had already experienced them before…. But still that joy though less this time, was very much there…. And those love songs and that Mushy Mushy feelings…..

Then came December 2012 when actually I forwarded a plan of our marriage…. But here like in India, the caste system is still prevalent… Her Parents rejected our relationships… even after convincing them, they never accepted and since then I never spoke to my parents about the same…..

Still 3 months passed, and even after struggling… things were never working out ….. We started having fights…. And she used to cry daily…. The Good Times started turning into Bad Days and those sleepless nights…..

After constantly following up also with her, things dint worked out and on 22^nd March,2013 we broke up (2 Days after my Birthday, Birthday on 20^th March)… Time passed… but her love never stopped for me and we are still in touch even after a year of not talking to each other….. She still loves me as she has not moved on since then… Though confessing here honestly, my feelings for her got over since I entered into 3^rd Relationship with Shefali Bagga- The most Painful Experience till date…. But as I said earlier… Love can never be blamed…. Love is pure in its sense… it is only us Humans who actually Defame it…….

Love Story No 3 ( Shefali Bagga- The most Painful Story for Me till Now………)

My Third love story had started while I was still in my second love story in January 2013 where my would be father in law Mr Bagga (Girl’s Dad) approached me with the marriage proposal and I first saw her on January 14,2013… Can never forget that date… and the first look…She was looking really pretty wearing Dark Blue Jeans and Pink Top……

Looks can always influence a man’s eyes…. So did happened with me… I don’t know but I was attracted to her in first go…. (May be not Love but by attraction or looks)

Our talks started on the day of my birthday 20^th March 2013, (May be I broke up with Rashmi Prabha, the girl who loved me on 22^nd March, because Shefali came in my life- More attracted to her physique and looks than the love- My Biggest Mistake)

We were on the rolls, daily interacting on Phones and Facebook, Whats App (The biggest culprit and the reason for my break up)…. Since then… In May 2013, my ROKA ( A ceremony where both the families confirm having boy and girl  married to each other) happened… but looking at the Body Language of the girl,… she was not comfortable as it happened all of a sudden on 05.05.2013 by her father without telling me and my family and her also….

She was surprised that what was happening and so did I… Then Ignoring it.. we started spending time together.. for some days I had been to my native place i.e. Chandigarh as I was staying in Bangalore and she in Chandigarh…… we spend time to know each other better…..

We were chatting on phones on wats app sending pics to each other and in this technological era what not….  Apps we used…..

Initially, she was also very excited and used to talk to me with an open mind…. In june 2013, her training came in Delhi (She is working with a Government Bank) …. Where she went and enjoyed a lot… and send her pics… She looks very preety in Pink Colour…. (My Bad Luck, I dint met her much Times during my relationship with her)

As Days passed…. After she came back from the training… October came… We i.e. my family started asking the family about the engagement…. She was never ready to do  it…. Here comes the role of My lifetime friend Rachita Sambhyal… a very jovial, understanding, Independent, Gorgeous Lady who was always there to help me…. Well I introduced her to my Shefali Bagga , We all did interactions with each other…

Shefali was never interested in doing engagement… it was only under family pressure.. that she got ready to get engaged on 12^th October, 2013 (I don’t know who read the Bad Omens for us, that my engagement stands Broken Today ).. Anyways, I ignored this fact and was happy… on the Evening of that day she told me for the first time That She Loves me too (The Three words my ears yearned to hear from her since 6 months we had started speaking with each other) and with that she added the clause that marriage will happen after April 2014 as she is not yet prepared now… The first big blow to my this relationship in this… still I ignored… I could not understand why is she not doing the marriage early..

Then as days passed by she became online till late nites daily till 1 or 2 AM daily and chatting with her friends… and never informed me with whom she is chatting so long…. She never understood, that once she is engaged… she should not talk to her friends till late nites and ignoring me …

We started having fights and infact constant fights….still January, February, March 2014 passed… During this time, a career leap happened with me and I cleared Treasury Exam and got posted in Mumbai….

In March, we had a very big fight and for the full month of April 2014, we never interacted… It was only after the girl’s father’s intervention that we started interacting and things became to normalize as I had thought but she never actually gave importance to me…

I used to cry.. where my lifetime friend RS helped and councelled me at every step… Due to my immaturity, I also committed many mistakes in my this relationship…. But I feel the Long Distance between us and only on phones was the biggest problem between us…….

Love never grows between two people if they do not spend time physically with each other…. Technology can bring you closer, but emotionally and physically, You need to be together……

In may, 1 yr of my ROKA and she dint even remembered the dates… things were not in their place and we had more of fights and love was no where…. Total complete thinking change and no one understood each other… There was only Long Silence and just Silence.. and noices of Crying…..  My and her family were in doldrums only and blamegame started and the game of accusing each other.....

Like this days passed and my promotional interview came in July 2014… and still no support from her and her family side…. I knew something is not going correct, and this girl is doing marriage under parental pressure rather than her own free will…..

This was the beginning of the end of my third relationship and it finally got over on 24^th July, 2014……..

And I stand before you, yet again lonely and stranded like ever before…and what is left with me is PAIN…!! PAIN.. AND JUST PAIN….!!!

But my best buddies i.e. RS  was given to me during this entire third relationship experience who was their since my starting and till now she is with me… emotionally and friendship had grown strong with her… knowing her for 6 Long years…. (Well she is married already, My chance missed….;-))…. But the love of friendship is always there…..

This pain and loneliness had made my more subtle, more deeper from insight and more matured…. Though I will still not say that I know how to handle relationships since it’s a very sensitive thing and a lot needs to be still learnt now… but these experiences have made me to value small things In life and value the other person….

Pain and Loneleness , my best companions and very faithfull but as it is said…God is Great… May be one day I will find my True Love…. And Love will blossom again… Keep Looking… Never give up.. You never know… with whom your destiny is finally Tied up….. World is a Global Village….!!!

With warm Regards,

Ravi Arora